Love is no longer alone

The question of love as an essential element of human relations of the most remote ancient times and from different cultures, and the Christian narrative perhaps the most eloquent and influential in this regard. The idea of ​​love is present in various types of ties that create lifelong. We have the unconditional love of parent and child, maternal love, blind love, among many others. Within this theme, the American psychologist Jerome Kogen points to another element which he said is as important as love: the value that gives people nearby. 

Before any discussion, you need to think about what is "value", and the significance of it for a healthy relationship and fair, and inquire about how to bring this concept closer to our lives and make our relationships healthier. 

We live in a culture speaks volumes about the importance of love - and we take only one example, the Christian doctrine is based on almost maximum "love your neighbor as yourself." But what kind of love is this, what is the existing limitations facing the same lack of understanding, and what meaning the act of "valuing" the next to have more stable relationships? The studies of psychologists Kogen pointed to the fact that children are more mentally healthy if they realize that at least one of their parents values, and emphasizing that says that this act is so important to love - it defined by the research participant as being only a manifestation of love and attention. 

Such an act of value - it is now set - refers to the attitude to make the other feel important in light of their realities, options, constraints and choices. It is encouraging to go beyond the dreams, but helping others to make them viable, and do something for others that he did not get his lines and listen carefully. 

All of these actions contradict the love limited only to expressions of affection, the studies by Kogen. Many can not even see the distinction between love and who knew these two definitions, but most believe that love is just like the previously mentioned study.Hence the importance of - excuse the pun unavoidable - to highlight the value given to the people. 

In the book "The Kite Runner" by Khaled Hosseini have a clear example of what was said Baba, the father loved his son, but not valued on their decision to be a writer, which resulted in an anxious personality and certain "guilt" by her son. Of course in this case had an unconditional love between parent and child that reflected in a respectful, but the child suffered serious consequences for lack of parental value. 

Can then be summarized as important as love is the value that gives people, and although for some such nouns are inseparable, the practice can demonstrate a different reality, and for those who have not realized it's time to move beyond expressions of affection and appreciation from for people who like ... 

 

Luciano Henrique Pinto